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April Gathering: Gender? Where?

Posted in burlesque, education, events, gender, health, men, politics, queer, relationships, trans, women on March 20, 2013 by Pleasure Forum Australia

Our March gathering on Polyamory was indeed our biggest to date! For those who ventured out in the heat to hear the tales of wonder and then some, we salute you!
April coincides with our 3rd birthday at PFA, (counting from the night we officially started to launch with speakers. )PFA has grown over the 3 years into the event you know and love today that aims to fill the gap where conventional sex education just doesn’t go.
Completely unfunded, PFA survives on your door contributions and the generosity of the panelists, so we value your attendance each month and your support for the variety of topics we bring you.
Please note that our APRIL gathering is the first Tuesday of the month ( April 2, immediately after Easter) as Loop Bar is fully booked throughout the Melbourne International Comedy Festival.

All funds raised from the APRIL gathering will go towards Kate Bornstein’s cancer treatment fund . Read her response in the Huffington Post article.

GENDER? WHERE?

Are you a man? or Are you a woman? or Are you someone inbetween? What does it mean to be a man or a woman and how will you know when you get there? Gender and even sex extend beyond genitals, but many of us get tripped up when what we see and what we’ve been taught about gender don’t necessarily play out as we expect!
For more and more people the prescribed versions of masculinity and femininity no longer fit, but we are left wondering what models are available to replace them. Can you be of one gender and attracted to the same but not label yourself accordingly? This night at PFA explores what gender is and can be from a pleasure and relationship perspective. Exploring cultural and social implications surrounding gender and the experiences of those who identify and trans, gender queer or just enjoy playing with gender stereo types ( and we’ll define and explore the difference), we’ll discuss how gender affects sex and sexuality and how your own concept of gender can be (re)defined.
Hosted by Cyndi Darnell this event will highlight and explore what gender can look like and why so many more people are questioning what gender even means.

Panelists

Sally Goldner
Sally has been actively involved in Melbourne’s queer community for the last fifteen years. This includes ongoing involvement with TransGender Victoria, 3 CR’s “Out of the Pan,” Victorian Gay and Lesbian Rights Lobby, and Bisexual Alliance Victoria.. She is the focus of an autobiographical documentary “Sally’s Story” and was noted in The Age’s Top 100 most creative and influential people in Melbourne in 2011. She is also a spoken word performer and stand-up comedian.
Aaron
Aaron is best known at PFA as our dashing door dude & he loves a good GenderFuck! He’s worked in the sex industry for about 6 years. His gender journey started at year 0 and after years of denial, he has now been on testosterone for about 14 months! He still considers himself a baby trans cub puppy feminist and is loving his gender journey that this lifetime has afforded him ( even with all the ups AND downs.) You can pretty much ask Aaron anything to do with his transition from sex and attraction, to life pre and post T ( testosterone )

Agent Cleave
Part pirate, part mermaid, part pony, part religious icon, AGENT CLEAVE stokes desire and blurs the gender line with his sharp and sexual performances. Grotesque and beautiful in equal measure, the AGENT has captivated audiences from all walks of life by evoking a sense of rock and roll sexuality that appeals to anyone wanting to have fun.
From hard working beginnings in Melbourne’s Queer party scene, AGENT CLEAVE has relentlessly carved a niche laying somewhere between Drag, stripping and rock and roll, this peculiar signature style culminating in an ongoing DJ collaboration with recording artist PEACHES that has allowed him international exposure at major music festivals and events, his work critically lauded for its high energy, intricate design and joyful exploitation of sexual stereotypes.
Jez Pez
Jez has been actively involved in the LGBTIQ community for over a decade. He is the creator and Editor of DUDE MAGAZINE. Jez is a passionate community organiser who has co-curated exhibitions about trans men and trans masculinity for Midsumma in 2008, 2009 & 2012. Jez also works as a consultant, providing gender diversity training to the health and education sectors.
Lisa Sinclair
Lisa is a genderqueer trans person who has rejoined the community after 10 years finding themselves. They should have just looked behind the couch. Lisa co-facilitates Genderqueer Australia, runs a freelance web and graphic design company, studies and also volunteers with another community organisation as IT support. This leaves Lisa with a couple of hours a week to sleep.

WHEN: TUESDAY APRIL 2. 2013

WHERE: LOOP BAR 23 MEYERS PLACE . MELBOURNE CBD

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TIME: 7.30

COST $10

Agent Cleave

December Gathering 2012

Posted in anal, education, entertainment, erotica / porn, events, health, kink / BDSM, men, open relationships / polyamory, queer, relationships, safer sex, sex work, straight, swinging, women on November 26, 2012 by Pleasure Forum Australia

Greetings Pleasure Lovers

Tuesday December 4th  2012marks our final gathering for 2012 where we have invited back our panelists from throughout the year to give us a summary of their best work to date and whatever else they may have to share with us.

Come an experience some of the highlights from 2012 (and  even a few from bygone years)  and of course the usual shenanigans and door prizes from our wonderful sponsors! See you there!

When: Tuesday December 4th 2012

Time: 7.30pm

Where: Loop Bar

Price: $10

Special Announcement

Posted in education, events, kink / BDSM, men, open relationships / polyamory, relationships, safer sex, sex work, special events, straight, tantra / spirituality / ritual, touch, trans, women on September 13, 2012 by Pleasure Forum Australia

It is with great sadness that we must inform you that Barbara Carrellas  Melbourne event has been cancelled. This morning we received news of Barbara’s partner requiring surgery which means Barbara must be back in NYC for the time this event had been scheduled. Rest assured, Barbara is a very BIG fan of Melbourne and will be back sometime VERY soon

September Gathering

Posted in education, events, health, kink / BDSM, men, politics, queer, relationships, straight on August 23, 2012 by Pleasure Forum Australia

For the Love of Men

Depictions of men in mainstream sex and sexuality are often brutish and cavalier. Rock hard bodies and rock hard cocks are favoured over insightful conversation about lesser known inner workings of thought, feeling and beyond. Alternative depictions of ‘conscious’ men have taken over from the image of the SNAG of the 1990s, but what is there between the rougish footballer and the yoga-loving tantra dude? Is masculinity accurately represented in the eyes of men? While the images that complement the gender referred to as men may be accurate in some ways, the picture is nowhere near diverse nor complex enough to include men of varied orientations, identities or persuasions. We often hear about how men are supposed to behave or should behave rather than how they examine and experience their own behaviour. How do men feel about processing their inner workings, particularly when it comes to sex? Can we reconcile being rock hard with being soft, do we even have to and what’s the pay off if we do…………… or don’t?

The September gathering of Pleasure Forum Australia looks at men and how men see themselves as part of a sexual culture and the sex positive movement within Australia. Straight, gay and kinky the men who have agreed to be part of the September Forum have been busily working on their collaborations to bring you what will be an insightful , poignant and humourous look at the role and function of Australian men in modern Australian society, through the filter of SEX!

Panelists

Roger  Barnett is a passionate advocate of equality for men as well as for women. A facilitator of groups by trade (including conflict work around gender), he also writes about equality and is a long-time student of psychology and sexuality (including bdsm, tantra, and creative relationships).  His twenty years of training and experience has given him some radical and compelling perspectives on how we might achieve equality.

Dr Christopher Fox is a Sex and Relationship Therapist.  He also works as a Senior Lecturer in sexual health counselling in the Faculty of Medicine, University of Sydney.  Christopher’s PhD explored the relationship between perceived body image and penis size.  Christopher’s interests are in gender, sexuality, and men’s health.  Christopher previously lectured in health promotion at La Trobe University.

Hebari has practised rope bondage over the past 16 years with particular focus on Japanese style bondage over the past three years. In 2011 Hebari established the Peer Rope Australia association which runs Peer Rope workshops monthly, giving everyone the chance to access affordable rope education regardless of background, gender, sexuality or kink.

Tuesday September 4th

7.30pm

LOOP 23 Meyers Place. CBD

$10

Update for PSM Monday Feb 13. 2012

Posted in burlesque, entertainment, erotica / porn, events, men, queer, trans on February 12, 2012 by Brian

Just added to the panel for Feb Pleasure Salon is Australian gay male porn performer Zack Acland  and special interview for PSM with Buck Angel.

New Venue, New Days and February Gathering

Posted in art, erotica / porn, events, health, men, politics, sex work, straight, women on February 6, 2012 by Brian

Greetings all ……..and Happy New Year

Pleasure Salon Melbourne is back for 2012 with a fabulous variety of sex-positive, sexual  health, pleasure  and  adult information  evenings . Our nights still feature  Australia’s  best sex educators and activists to bring you some of the most up to date and progressive sexuality information available, all in a friendly and welcoming environment.

As you know we have been looking for a new home for some time now, and have finally found one  at the gorgeous

LOOP bar

23 Meyers Place

Melbourne CBD  (Off Bourke St,  close to Parliament Station.)

We are thrilled to announce this venue is WHEELCHAIR ACCESSIBLE and has CAR PARKING  close by.

Next week our

 FEBRUARY GATHERING

from 6.30pm will be on

 MONDAY  FEB 13

$10

Forum starts at 7.30 pm

February Pleasure Salon Melbourne celebrates sex-positive erotic films, feminism and pornography

February PSM will be trialling a new PANEL format where our guests will be able to engage in dialogue with Cyndi and the audience to explore and detail their experiences as performers and producers of pornographic adult movies.

Our Feb line up includes the gorgeous and articulate Gala  known for her pioneering work with FECK,  stunning feminist pornster Liandra Dahl  an independent feminist pornographer and blogger who has recently worked with one of the world’s most well known sex educators ( Betty) Dodson and Ross,  alongside award winning  Australian production company, Adult Voyeur’s very own  Bourke Wills.

Gala

Gala is a mutli-purpose sex-positive sex worker who entered the industry through the pornhole.  Her career in alternative smutmaking started at a Melbourne-based company Feck ( one of Pleasure Salon Melbourne’s sponsors),  and her work appears on its sites  ishotmyself.com, beautifulagony.com, ifeelmyself.com, and sonicerotica.com.  more recently she has appeared on liandradahl.com, and she is currently preparing to launch a blog journalling her experiences in various facets of the industry.’

Liandra Dahl

Liandra has worked in the alternative pornography industry for 9 years. She first began work with the Australian adult websites run by Feck, ishotmyself.com  and beautifulagony.com as a contributor and then as the hostess of their masturbation site ifeelmyself.com between 2003 to 2007. She has also worked with acclaimed European female adult film producers Erika Lust and Jennifer Lyon Bell as a performer. She currently runs her own pansexual independent reality sex site LiandraDahl.com where she performs, produces, films, edits and codes for the whole project and website.

Bourke Wills

Bourke Wills started making high quality, uniquely Australian porn a long time ago as Adult Voyuer. Our first trial shoot was August 2008 and was either a dismal failure or incredibly steep learning curve, depending on which way you look at these things.

We continued shooting,  and learning until we felt we had a sufficient backlog of material. We launched the first version of our site in 2010 to a very good reception and relaunched in in 2011 the same year we  won the Eros Shine Award for the “Best Australian Adult Website”.

Adult Voyeur continues to grow  largely due to the fascination the rest of the world has with Australia and Australian’s eager to see Australian content. We are Australia’s only high production value, top shelf,  adult film company and are dedicated to showcasing beautiful Australians having great sex in gorgeous Australian locations. We feel Australian porn as a whole is unique, it is women and couple friendly, empowering,  sex positive porn.

In other news……………………………

Starting in March,  we will be meeting the FIRST TUESDAY of each month which means our March Salon will be on TUESDAY March 6th, and we will be continuing with TUESDAY gatherings for the rest of 2012 unless we have a special event.

We understand that may mean some of you won’t be able to attend, whilst for others it means a break from the weekend crazies and a day to recover before heading out again. Running such an event we try our best to keep everyone happy, but in the end decisions have to be made, and we hope this change causes as little disappointment and inconvenience as possible

LOOP bar have offered us the residency for the duration of 2012 and we look forward to sampling their fabulous food and drink selection and taking advantage of the fabulous tech set up in addition to the warm embrace of Pleasure Salon Melbourne’s values of open and honest discussion around the importance of pleasure and good sex.

We look forward to seeing you all again.

New Venue and November Gathering

Posted in art, events, health, kink / BDSM, men, queer, straight, tantra / spirituality / ritual, touch, trans, women on October 30, 2011 by Brian

Well, It’s been a long time coming, but we’re back to see out the rest of 2011 with a bang.

Our next gathering will be Monday November 7th at our brand new home

Tony Starr’s Kitten Club,

Level 2 / 267 Little Collins St. (CBD)

 (Look for the lime green door.)

Since previous host venue 24 Moons shut its doors, we have been looking for a new home to host us, and the good people at Tony Starr’s
Kitten Club have kindly offered their premises to us. Fabulous food, full menu and cocktails, we are thrilled and honoured to have access to this wonderful new space. Sadly, this venue is not wheelchair accessible.  We are still open to suggestions for a new home, so please send us your ideas for places that

  • serve food and liquor
  • have a space for us
  • have stages, mics, projectors etc.
  • are wheelchair accessible
  • and in the CBD

NOVEMBER GATHERING

As you may have been following, we are revamping PSM’s format starting with our November gathering. November brings you 2 special
presenters and a flurry of shenanigans prepared by Cyndi and Christian for your delight. Door prizes a plenty and more interaction for you all.

Summer time start is now 6.30 pm for a 7.15 first presenter.

PRESENTERS;

Jessi Lewis

Melbourne performance artist Jessi Lewis joins us for a presentation like no other.

Exploring what it means to be only 22 and HIV positive, in a world where the death of face to face flirtation is imminent after the rise of Grindr, & what this new technology means for his generation while weaving this in through his own personal story of performance, gay beats, paying rent and moving to Melbourne at age 18.

Having performed Australia wide, Jessi is thrilled to bring us excerpts from his dance pieces, and engage in a Q & A with our audience at PSM.

Melbourne Rope Dojo

Our feedback has told us that you have all been VERY keen to know more about rope play and we have found you one of Australia’s best rope
instructors; Melbourne Rope Dojo!

The head instructor at the Melbourne Rope Dojo is Scott, one of the most experienced practitioners of Shibari outside of Japan. Scott started studying Shibari in 2004, which lead him to visit Japan starting in 2009 to continue his studies. He has been to Japan three times now to study under his Sensei, Osada Steve, and one of Osada Steve’s teachers, Yukimura Haruki-Sensei.

Whilst experienced in all aspects of Shibari, Scott has a particular love of newaza, or the intimate and connected tying typically performed on the floor. For Scott, the connection that can be achieved through rope is unique and forms the heart of Shibari. There is therefore an emphasis at the Dojo of learning how to obtain this connection.

Scott will be providing a demonstration of his work, along with a full suspension demonstration and a history of Shibari (Japanese
Rope Work).

Where:

 Tony Starr’s Kitten Club

Level 2/ 267 Little Collins St CBD

When:

 Monday November 7th

Doors:  6: 30 pm for a 7:15 start.

 Full bar and meals available

Cost $10